Furthermore, I’d like to think we’re equals and that I’m not an authority figure to him or vice versa. Personally, I like to think of a potential boyfriend as being someone around my age who, romantic feelings aside, is like my best friend or brother, not my father. At the same time, I know it’s probably more nuanced than that, and there must be a way to go about doing it consensually. It seems to me like this is a toxic power dynamic that can lead to abuse or sexual exploitation. I looked into it further, and apparently, some young gay men get off on the idea of an older boyfriend who acts as a mentor and father figure.
I’ve encountered this in a few online erotic stories I’ve read recently. I’m a young gay in his mid-20s, and I was wondering: What is it with the kink some gay guys have for daddies?